When living in a sexless marriage it can affect all your close
relationships, including your children. It is very important that your sexless
marriage not damage their development. Children’s first education is at home
and this is the first place they learn about love. If your kids don’t see that their
parents love each other it can leave a lasting negative impression on their minds
and they may have a hard time understanding what love is. They may even feel
that you as a parent don’t love them.
What can you do about this situation? Let your children see that
the two of you love each other. Now I’m not trying to get all gushy when I say
this, but they need to see both of you showing affection towards one another,
you know the normal stuff. A hug or a kiss on the cheek; children should also
see you all getting along with one another. When children grow up in a
household where their parents are showing love and affection, they tend to grow
up knowing they are loved and when they get into their own relationships they
will know what is normal. If you are cuddling with your husband or wife and the
children see this, they will also know they have a stable home life and happy parents.
If the parents aren’t happy, more than likely the children won’t be either.
Also if the parents aren’t happy, children will not get the love and
affection they need from both parents. Kids are affected from a young age from
what they see at home. If parents fight all the time, kids will more than likely
believe that violence is the way to solve all problems. Or they will pass this
on the next generation and cause a horrible chain reaction. Kids don’t need to
see negative behavior from their parents ever, so don’t put your marriage problems in front of your children. They need structure, security, and love. In
order to achieve that you will need to work on improving your marriage and
getting the sex and intimacy back in your relationship.
